Hello, I must be going

Hello, I must be going is a lovely movie with a simple, relatable, insightful and well-written script — with some beautiful drops of humor thrown here and there — beautifully delivered by very good actors who look, sound and behave like regular people in everyday situations.

My favorite line, which was not said by the childless woman in the movie, but by a young man, is:

Sometimes it’s just easier, you know, to be like other people want you to be. Rather than fight it.”

He tells this to the childless woman, with whom he is having an affair, when explaining why he let’s his mother continue to think he is gay, when he is not. She started thinking he was gay after he played a gay character (he is an actor).

She is really into being accepting, so I just let her think I’m gay. And she gets to be accepting.”

Fast forward 5 min in the movie, after this scene, and then it’s time for Amy (the childless woman) to say:

Don’t do it. Just don’t do it if you don’t want to do it. It’s your life, right? It’s nobody else’s.”

I could explain what she was referring to in the scene, but does it matter? Not really. As I think this line could apply to anything in life.

Even though the topics discussed in the two scenes mentioned above are not exactly the same, I felt like putting them together, putting their lines together, cause the theme was the same: being yourself. Or finding out who you truly want to become.

This young character let his mom and other people believe that he was gay and that he enjoyed being an actor. He hated it. All of it. He really did.

Some women, for whatever reason, maybe simply because it is easier for them, do the same. They prefer to let people think they are going to have a child one day, so that they don’t have to talk about their lack of desire, infertility or ambivalence in relation to becoming mothers. It’s, in a way, an acting exercise and they too are playing a role.

This is definitely my kind of movie, but not the kind of role I want to play in life.

 

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